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男性基本身體結構 Body Basics For Him

認識身體,愛惜身體  Know Your Body, Love Your Body        愈認識你的身體,你就愈能夠從中獲得快感。雖然大部份男士早期就熟識自己的身體,以一個較學術的角度來認識這些部位還是有用的。認識你的陰莖,你便可以更好的對待它。  The better you know your body, the more pleasure it can give you. But while most men get intimately acquainted with themselves at an early age, a more academic study of the area can also prove useful. Get to know your penis and you'll be far more equipped to handle it.     陰莖體  The Shaft    這是陰莖的主要部份。當男性興奮時它會膨脹起來。男仕們可能會擔心它太短、太幼或有其他不足。但普遍來說,男士比女士更在乎陰莖的大小,其實任何大小的陰莖都會有它的優點。  This is the main part of the penis, and swells when a guy gets turned on. Men may worry it's too short, thin or otherwise lacking but generally speaking, men are far more hung up on penis size than women are, and there are advantages to having a penis of any size.    如果它彎曲的話,您應該去找醫生檢查以確保陰莖彎曲並非由疾病所引起 (或是粗暴性愛中受傷,雖然如果真的發生的話你很可能可以察覺到) 。但是,很多男士的陰莖都會有輕微的自然彎曲,而這是無需擔心的,而且更可以加以利用來接觸G點。  If it's curved, do visit a doctor to check there's nothing wrong as curvature can be caused by certain disorders (or damaged during rough sex but you're highly likely to notice if that happens). However, many men have a slight natural curve to the penis which is nothing to worry about – and can even make it easier to hit the G-spot.    陰莖頭  The Glans    通常我們稱為龜頭,是陰莖最敏感的部份。冠狀溝(環繞龜頭低部)及包皮繫帶(從龜頭延伸到陰莖體)尤其敏感,所以集中刺激這兩部位可以獲得最大快感,但若果有早洩問題的話則最好避開它們。  Often referred to as the head of the penis, this is generally the most sensitive part. The coronal ridge (around the bottom of the glans) and frenulum ('string' that runs from the glans to the shaft) are often particularly sensitive and, as such, are great to focus on to give maximum pleasure, and best avoided if premature ejaculation is an issue.    興奮的時候龜頭會膨脹、充血並變深色。部份男士有較大的龜頭 (有時稱為磨菇頭) 。這會使得佩戴某些衛生套時感到不舒適,但為了解決這問題,杜蕾斯創造出適合不同陰莖形狀的衛生套。  The glans swells and darkens during arousal, as it fills with blood. Some men have a full glans (sometimes referred to as a mushroom head). This can make some condoms uncomfortable, but Durex has created condoms tailored to suit men's natural shape to get around this problem.    尿道  The Urethral Meatus    這是高潮時射精的管道。部份男士能從刺激尿道中獲得快感,但有些則覺得過於強烈,所以要小心處理。我們不建議塞任何東西入尿道,因為這可能會堵塞尿道,你不會希望因此而入院的。  This is the tube through which ejaculate shoots during orgasm. While some men get pleasure having it stimulated, others find it far too intense, so handle with care. Sliding anything down the urethral meatus is not advised as it can get stuck, and you don't want to end up in hospital.    包皮  The Foreskin    部份男士出於宗教或健康理由割掉包皮 (例如包皮太緊 , 但並沒證據顯示割包皮會令人更健康)。包皮幫助保護龜頭並幫助陰莖自我潤滑。所以,割掉包皮的話自慰時就可能需要很多潤滑油了。  Some men have their foreskin removed for religious or health reasons (for example, if it's too tight – there is little evidence to suggest removing the foreskin is healthier on a general basis).  The foreskin helps protect the glans and also helps the penis self-lubricate. As such, if a guy's had his removed, you'll probably need to use a lot more lube during manual play.    “Get to know your penis and you'll be far more equipped to handle it.” 
2021-12-30

從XXX到ZZZ From XXX to ZZZ

怎樣打破性愛沉悶  How to fight sexual boredom    從我們所收到的問題裡,其中一條最普遍的問題是:如何才可以令我們的關係保持甜蜜熾熱?在童話故事中,男女主角的結局總是「從此快樂地生活下去」,但來到現實,大部份的情侶都掙扎於「保持長時間的熱情」這一困擾上,大家不如嘗試以下的技巧,將沉悶掃走吧!  One of the most common letters sent to problem pages is, 'How can I keep the spice alive in my relationship?' While 'happily ever after' is a lovely fairytale ending, in reality, most couples struggle to keep things passionate long term. Try these techniques to help blast boredom away.    關注自己需要。很多人全情投入一段關係,會先照顧對方的需要,但其實你也要好好照顧你的需要﹗雖然這樣似乎在違反直覺,但過份緊張對方,很可能令對方感覺困擾,對關係造成很大的壓力。如果你是開朗、獨立及令人安心的,你將會更有魅力。  Look after your own needs too. Many people absorb themselves into a relationship putting their lover's needs first. While it may seem counter-intuitive, this can be a massive turn off, and make a lover feel trapped. If you're happy, independent and secure you'll be a lot more desirable.    照顧你的愛侶。在關係的初期,愛侶會取悅彼此,當你蠃得對方的芳心後,我們就很容易把事情變得理所當然。大家可以嘗試討你的愛侶歡心,無論是對對方的一個稱讚、送對方一份花心思的小禮物、為對方按摩雙腳等等,都能令對方感受到你的愛意。  Look after your lover. In the early days, people tend to woo each other. Once you've 'won' your partner's heart, it's easy to take it for granted. Seduce your lover, whether with praise, small thoughtful gifts, foot rubs or whatever else makes them feel good.    提升活力。性慾的減退往往與生活方式有關。一起運動令血液運行,也令你更適合性愛運動。  Be active. Loss of libido is often linked to lifestyle. Exercising together will get your blood pumping and make you fit for the job.    提升健康。不良的飲食習慣、過份飲酒、藥物(合法和非法的)、缺乏睡眠及缺乏健康的身體狀況都能使性慾下降。  Be healthy. Poor diet, drinking, drugs (legal and illegal) lack of sleep and general lack of fitness will all make the libido flag.    多點接吻。大部份的關係一開始經常接吻,但隨著時間就會變愈來愈少。當你接吻的時候,你自己個人與愛侶的費洛蒙更為接近── 一種性吸引的化學物質,能夠引起你倆的性慾。  Kiss. Most relationships start with a lot of kissing but this often wanes over time. When you kiss, you are bringing yourself up close and personal with your partner's pheromones – sexual attraction chemicals; which will boost desire.    顯示自己。精心的打扮自己,就彷如首次約會一樣;還有那性感的內衣。  Show yourself off. Pamper your body so you're as well-groomed as you were in those first dates – and flaunt it in flattering undies.    混合情趣。關係的早期,情侶都樂意發掘情趣;但當了解對方的喜好後,一切情趣很快便成為例行公事。你倆可多嘗試新的體位、玩具、不同前戲技巧,為尋常的規律注入新鮮。  Mix it up. Couples tend to explore a lot in the early days but once you've found what works, it can be easy to get stuck in a rut. Try new positions, toys, different foreplay techniques or introduce a bit of kink to the equation: or indeed, all the above.    改變角色:很多情侶在性行為時,總是有一方習慣當主動的角色,一方則是被動角色。你倆可以嘗試交換角色── 如果你平常是主動的一方,你可以鼓勵你的愛侶先作主動;如果平日是由你愛侶作主導,你則反過來向他先進攻吧﹗  Change roles: Many people fall into being either the active or passive partner in sex. Swap places – if you usually initiate sex, urge your lover to make the first move. And if your partner leads the way, pounce on them instead.    分享性幻想。美妙的性愛包括了身體的歡愉和大腦的想像,因此嘗試分享你倆的性幻想吧!  Share fantasies. Great sex involves the brain as well as the body so engage yours.    多點浪漫。性與愛總是相連的,你愈愛你的愛侶,在性事上,你愈能坦白。記住這一點,他的性愛生活將會一天比一天更好!  Be romantic. Sex and love work together. The more you know your lover, the more sexually honest you can be. Remember this and there's no reason sex shouldn't get better with every passing day.    “Try new positions, different foreplay techniques or introduce a bit of kink to the equation” 
2021-12-30

當一個順滑能手 Be a smooth operator

使用潤滑劑  Using lube      不少人認為潤滑劑只是在性器官異常乾涸的時候才使用。事實上,除此以外,它亦能夠為男女之間的性愛帶來更愉快的享受。  Many people think that lube is something you only need to use if you're too dry down below. However, it can make almost all sex better for men and women alike.    - 市面上的潤滑劑分為三大類別:水溶性、油性和矽膠配方。水溶性潤滑劑為最普遍的一類,它可以在任何地方使用。不過,它可能需要常常補充再塗(縱使你可以使用水的噴霧劑,令濕潤效果延長)。油性潤滑劑效果極之順滑,但卻影響安全套的效能。矽膠配方的潤滑劑能夠取以上兩者之優點,不但非常順滑,又能夠在安全套上使用而不影響其安全性。  There are three main types of lube: water based, oil based and silicone. Water based is the most common and can be used for anything. However, it may need re-application over time (though you can use a water spray applied locally to reactivate it and make it last longer). Oil based lube isn't condom safe but is super slippery. Silicone lube offers the best of both worlds, being super slippery and condom-safe.    - 無論男或女,自慰時配合潤滑劑,其潤滑的摩擦能帶來額外的快感。  Lube is great for masturbation, whether you're male or female. That slippery friction adds extra sensation.    - 不同的潤滑劑適合不同人士,因此應該嘗試多種選擇,找出最適合你身體的一種。  Different lubes suit different people so try a selection to work out which one is best for your body.    - 按摩油可令安全套出現破損,所以為安全起見,應該使用潤滑劑,體驗貼心的樂趣。  Massage oils can break condoms so stay safe by using lube instead.    - 利用雙手為男朋友或女朋友增加快感?加上少許潤滑劑會令雙方感受更愉快。  Using your hands to play with your boyfriend or girlfriend? A squeeze of lube will make it easier for you and better for your lover.    - 希望同時間手和口並用?馬拉松式性愛亦可以利用潤滑劑來增加情趣及延長時間——它彷如一個加油站,當你在性交時加上潤滑劑,你會發現你的摩打更容易保持運作!  Like to use your hands and your mouth at the same time? Opt for a flavoured lube to make things taste as sweet as a strawberry or as exciting as pina colada. Sex marathons benefit from added lubricant. See it like a pit stop: if you top up on lube as you go along, you'll keep your motors running.    - 性交擦傷後的次日早上,還想繼續?潤滑劑能夠幫助你減少摩擦上的受傷。  Chafed from sex the morning after but still want to keep on going? Lube will help reduce the friction burn.    - 想在性愛上加添多一點刺激,嘗試使用杜蕾斯熱感潤滑劑,感受與別不同的快感!  For an extra edge to sex, try Durex Play O, Warming or Tingle for a different sensation.    - 想兩人水乳交融?人體的皮膚是身體最大的性感帶,因此,在你愛侶身上塗抹一些潤滑劑,在交纏之中感受那幸福吧!   Want to mix things up? The skin's the body's biggest erogenous zone so try drizzling lube over your lover's body then writhing against them in slippery bliss. 
2021-12-30

STI's – All the Facts

STI's – All the Facts  Find out about Sexually Transmitted Infection's (STI's) – symptoms and treatment…  Thrush         What is it?   Thrush is caused by a harmless type of yeast, which lives on human skin, in the mouth, gut and vagina.  Sometimes this type of yeast gets a little out of hand, and starts growing more than it should.    How is it spread?  Although you can get thrush without having unprotected sex this is one way it can be transmitted.  What are the symptoms?  Some people will not show any signs or symptoms but it can create discomfort for both men and women in the genital area.    In women:  – Vaginal discharge which is thick, resembles cottage cheese and smells yeasty  – Itching, soreness and redness around the vagina, vulva or anus  – Swollen vulva  – Pain during sex or passing water    In men:  – Itching, burning and irritation under the foreskin or tip of the penis  – Redness or red patches under the foreskin or tip of the penis  – Problems with pulling back the foreskin  – A thin or thick, cheesy discharge under the foreskin  – Discomfort when passing urine    How can I get rid of it?  Treatment – thankfully – is fairly straightforward.  Men will usually be given cream to rub onto the penis and infected areas. Women are also offered cream and pessaries (an almond shaped tablet which is inserted into the vagina), which is like inserting a tampon.  To help relieve itching and soreness, wash the genital area with water only and avoid using soaps or having bubble baths, as they could irritate the infection. Treating both partners is important to stop re-infection.  Thrush thrives in warm and moist environments. So, if you have had thrush recently, make sure that you:  – Don't wear tights or underwear that are not cotton  – Don't wear tight trousers, lycra leggings or jeans  – Don't use perfumed soaps, genital sprays and deodorants  – Avoid using antibiotics if possible – ask your doctor for advice if offered antibiotics    To reduce the chances of getting it – use a condom!    Gonorrhoea  What is it?   Gonorrhoea is caused by a type of bacteria which loves to live in warm, moist areas of the body like the vagina, cervix, urethra, rectum and the throat.    How is it spread?  Through having vaginal, anal or oral sex without using a condom. Or sharing sex toys if you don’t wash them or cover them with a condom each time they’re used.    What are the symptoms?    In women:  – An unusual vaginal discharge which may be thin or watery, yellow or greenisish
– Pain when urinating
– Infection in the rectum or the eyes
– Infection in the throat – you might not even know you have it!
– Lower abdominal pain or tenderness
– Bleeding between periods or heavier periods    In men:  – White, green or yellow discharge from the penis that may stain your underwear
– Pain when urinating
– Infection in the rectum or the eyes
– Infection in the throat – you might not even know you have it!
– Pain or tenderness in the testicles
– Sometimes inflammation of the foreskin    How can I get rid of it?  The STI clinic will carry out a few painless tests and give treatment. Early gonorrhoea can be cured with a course of antibiotics. Your partner should also be treated to avoid re-infection.  To reduce the chances of getting it – use a condom!    HIV  What is it?   HIV is a virus that attacks the immune system (the system inside our body that is designed to fight off most infections). Once HIV affects the immune system it's there for good.    How is it spread?  The virus does not survive very long outside the body and reacts badly to changes in temperature or light.  So the way it can be passed on is through exchanging bodily fluids such as:  – Sperm or vaginal fluids through having unprotected vaginal, anal or oral sex. Or, sharing sex toys with someone who has HIV  – Blood through sharing injecting equipment or receiving contaminated blood donations  – Breast milk through infected mother to child. An infected mother can also pass it on to her child during pregnancy or birth  – There is absolutely no evidence of the virus being transmitted through sharing loo seats, a glass or cup, swimming pools or French kissing    What are the symptoms?  Some people will not show any signs or symptoms but it can create discomfort for both men and women in the genital area.    In women:  – Vaginal discharge which is thick, resembles cottage cheese and smells yeasty  – Itching, soreness and redness around the vagina, vulva or anus  – Swollen vulva  – Pain during sex or passing water    In men:  – Itching, burning and irritation under the foreskin or tip of the penis  – Redness or red patches under the foreskin or tip of the penis  – Problems with pulling back the foreskin  – A thin or thick, cheesy discharge under the foreskin  – Discomfort when passing urine    How can I get rid of it?  The only way you can tell if you are HIV positive (that you have the virus) is by having an HIV test – it usually takes up to three months or more for the virus to show up in your bloodstream from the time you become infected. So relying on regular tests should not be considered safer sex. Some people may have the virus for years and look and feel very healthy, but may still be able to pass it on. Others may be affected more quickly.  The HIV virus attacks the body’s T cells in the blood. As somebody’s number of T cells gets lower and lower, the immune system becomes weaker. This is when they may develop AIDS (acquired immunodeficiency syndrome).  To reduce the chances of getting it – use a condom!    Chlamydia  What is it?   Chlamydia can affect both men and women.  Once transmitted to women though, Chlamydia may cause Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID), which could mean they can’t have children.    How is it spread?  It is spread by having unprotected sex with someone who has the infection. It may not be obvious that they have it as 70 – 80% people don’t have symptoms.    What are the symptoms?  – The need to frequently pass water and, when you do, you feel a burning sensation or discomfort.  – For men, a slight, cloudy fluid, which oozes from the tip of the penis, mainly when waking up in the morning (this is a different fluid to semen). Or, painful, swollen testicles.  – Abnormal discharge from the vagina, urethra or anus.  – Many people never experience any symptoms but may still be infected.  – For women, bleeding between periods or during or after sex or lower abdominal pain.    How can I get rid of it?  A course of antibiotics – which can be prescribed at sexual health clinics or GP surgeries  To reduce the chances of getting it – use a condom!    Genital Warts    What is it?   HPV is a virus that causes different types of warts. One type is genital warts found on the vagina, cervix, vulva, penis, anus, rectum or urethra.    How is it spread?  It is easily spread during sex, as well as through touching infected genital areas.  Women who are affected by HPV should speak to a sexual health specialist, as the virus may encourage pre-cancerous cells in the cervix. Other types of HPV can lead to cervical cancer.  Having regular smear tests will help detect this and may prevent cervical cancer developing.    What are the symptoms?  Most people do not develop visible warts and the virus will go away on its own.  Those who do, develop small fleshy growths on the skin, anywhere on the body. Sometimes there may be an itching or a burning sensation in the genital area.    How can I get rid of it?  Although genital warts can be treated, they may take a long time to get rid of.  There are a variety of treatments available such as:  – Laser treatment  – Freezing  – Surgery  – Prescriptive drugs – creams or liquids  Both partners should always be treated.    To reduce the chances of getting it – use a condom!  *HPV will not pass through a condom, but condoms do not cover all the genital area, so it is possible to infect skin in the surrounding area, even whilst wearing a condom.    Syphilis  What is it?   Syphilis is an organism that infects blood and other bodily fluids. If it’s not treated in the early stages, it can be very serious.    How is it spread?  By unprotected sex or sharing sex toys with a person who has the infection, by direct skin contact with someone who has syphilis sores or a syphilis rash.    What are the symptoms?  There can be three stages of infection:    First Stage – one or more sores usually found near or on the vagina or penis or sometimes the mouth and anus. These sores will appear two or three weeks after coming into contact with syphilis. These last for two to six weeks and are very infectious.    Second Stage – A rash on the body may appear within two to six months of the original infection.  Flu-like symptoms such as fever, headache and sore throat may be experienced.  Flat, warty looking growths on the vulva in women and around the anus in men and women. Both these stages may not be noticeable.    If not treated:  Third Stage – Permanent damage to the heart, brain and other organs – which could be fatal.  This final stage is quite rare and can arise many years after the first infection, when treatment has not been given.    How can I get rid of it?  Antibiotics will be given to clear the infection. It is important that both partners are treated to avoid re-infection. Follow up appointments may be necessary  To reduce the chances of getting it – use a condom!    Hepatitis  What is it?   Hepatitis means inflammation of the liver and comes in many shapes and forms. The type of hepatitis depends on the length of the illness and the strength of the virus.    How is it spread?  Hepatitis can be contracted through having unprotected sex with someone who has the infection, or coming into contact with infected blood, sexual fluids or through the faecal-oral route.    What are the symptoms?  Some people have no symptoms but still carry the virus, so they can infect others.  Hepatitis B can take between six and 23 weeks to take effect once you have been infected.  The main symptoms connected with hepatitis are:  – Jaundice – where the skin looks yellow  – Abdominal discomfort, vomiting, nausea and high fever  – Flu-like symptoms, sore throat or cough  – When you go to the toilet your urine becomes dark and the stools are pale    How can I get rid of it?  Treatment is available for some forms of hepatitis and will vary depending on which type it is.  A liver and digestive diseases specialist will prescribe relevant medication. The treatment may be spread over several months, depending on how serious the infection is. Because hepatitis is very easy to pass on, more so than HIV and other STIs, it is important that safer sex is practised.  There are vaccinations available for some forms of hepatitis  There are a variety of treatments available such as:  – Laser treatment  – Freezing  – Surgery  – Prescriptive drugs – creams or liquids  Both partners should always be treated.  To reduce the chances of getting it – use a condom!    Trichomoniasis  What is it?   Trichomoniasis or TV is an infection that is caused by a parasite which can be found in the vagina in women and the urethra in men.    How is it spread?  By unprotected sex with a person who has the infection.    What are the symptoms?  This infection seems to affect more women than men but women can pass it on through sexual contact or through sharing sex toys and not washing them between uses or not covering them with a condom.  Up to half of men and women will not have any signs or symptoms. Signs and symptoms usually show up within about a month of coming into contact with the disease.  The main symptoms are:  -Vaginal discharge which is thin, yellow or green, frothy and/or with a fishy smell  – Itchy or sore vagina  – Pain when passing urine  – Men may experience unusual discharge or a sore penis    How can I get rid of it?  A course of antibiotics will be given to get rid of the parasite and the infection. Sexual contact should be avoided until you have finished the treatment.  To reduce the chances of getting it – use a condom!    Herpes  What is it?   Herpes is a viral infection that attacks the nervous system. It's from the same family of infection as chicken pox, shingles and glandular fever.  Genital herpes is part of the herpes simplex virus…there are two types. Type I more commonly causes cold sores around the mouth and nose and type II more commonly causes sores in the genital and anal area, which can also transfer to the mouth.  Herpes lurks in the central nervous system – waiting to break out when you are feeling unwell or stressed.    How is it spread?  – Genital herpes (or herpes simplex) can pass between the genital area and mouth through:  – Oral, anal or vaginal sex with an infected partner when they are having an outbreak of herpes  – Touching a partner's infected mouth/penis/vagina/anus then touching your mouth/genitals. It can also be spread by sharing sex toys.    What are the symptoms?  Many people will not have any signs or symptoms  Both men and women can be infected and may have one or more of the following symptoms:  – Stinging, itching or tingling in the genital or anal area  – Pains down the thighs, legs or in the groin, flu-like symptoms  – Small blisters which have a clear liquid inside them which if they burst, leave painful red ulcers – these blisters may be hidden in the vagina, cervix or rectum  – Pain when passing urine    How can I get rid of it?  You can’t! Once you have the virus there is no cure.  However a doctor or sexual health specialist can offer medication to control the outbreaks of blisters.  To reduce the chances of getting it – use a condom!   
2021-12-30

性、愛與睪丸痛 Sex, Love and Blue Balls

  打破性的迷思  Sex Myths Busted    大部份人都羞於談性。我們要打破一些最常見的迷思,為你帶來真相(在此處已經可以跟你說:你的伴侶都不會有14吋長的陰莖)。  Most people are too shy to talk about sex honestly. We've busted some of the most common myths to bring you the truth (And no, your mate probably doesn't have a 14 inch penis.)    我不正常?  I'm not normal    長有毛髮的乳頭、下垂的乳房、不對稱的睪丸—— 所有人都有他們所憂慮的事情。再來,什麼東西你認為最性感,又或者誰人你覺得他很棒……你很少機會可以與人分享你所關注的事,我們都太害怕去談及這些話題。即使你有其他獨特的癖好,其實也是很正常的。  Hairy nipples, droopy boobs, lopsided balls – everyone has insecurities. And then there's what and who you find sexy… But chances are you share most of your concerns with other people – who are also too shy to discuss it – and have some unique quirks. That's as normal as it gets.    站著性交的方式 / 月經時性交 / 第一次性交,都不會懷孕?  You can't get pregnant if you have sex standing up/on your period/the first time you have sex    你每次進行性行為,都有懷孕的風險,因此除非你希望孕育孩子,否則每一次都要保持安全。精子可以在身體內生存幾天,而且一條精子就能令人懷孕。衛生套及女性衛生套能夠提供良好的保護,以及預防性病毒感染。更好的是,你亦可以配合其他形式的避孕方法得到加倍安全及預防性病毒。  You risk pregnancy every time you have sex, so have safe sex every time, unless you want a baby. Sperm can survive in the body for several days and it takes one to get someone pregnant. The condom or female condom is great for safe sex and it protects against Sexually Transmitted Infection (STIs). Better still, you can use them with other forms of contraception to be extra safe and STI-free. If you've struggled with condoms, trying a different size such as Close feel or Comfort Fit can help. For more information see Brook (http://www.brook.org.uk/) or the Family Planning Association (http://www.fpa.org.uk/)    如果你愛一個人,你就要與對方做愛?  If you love someone, you have to have sex    在催促一個未有準備的人與其做愛,這已經不是愛了;同時性行為亦不可以「證明」愛。每一個人都需要不同時間去作準備(有少數人感到從來未準備好),因此還是跟隨你自己的步伐吧!  Pressuring someone to have sex before they are ready is not loving, and having sex does not 'prove' love. Everyone feels ready at their own time (a few people never feel ready at all) so take it at your own pace.    口交是安全的?  Oral Sex is Safe    口交不會導致懷孕,但仍然可以傳染性病毒,包括淋病、皰疹和衣原體。而因口交染上性病的數目,目前有上升的趨勢。如果想口交安全,可以使用加有味道的男性衛生套與女性使用口腔保護膜(乳膠墊片),以上兩者都很容易在網上買到。如果你長有唇瘡,不要予人口交,因為它是其中一種皰疹種類,同樣能夠傳染。  While you can't get pregnant from oral sex, it can still spread STIs including gonorrhoea, herpes and chlamydia – and orally transmitted STIs are currently on the increase. For safer oral, use flavoured condoms on a man and dental dams (latex squares) to cover a woman: both are easily available online. If you get cold sores, don't give oral while you have one as they are a form of herpes and can spread.    男性如果沒有性行為,便會因為睪丸劇痛而死亡?  A man will die from blue balls if he doesn't have sex    缺乏性行為是不會傷害男性或女性的。你可能會感覺沮喪、緊張或慾求不滿,即使感到痛楚,亦不會有任何傷害。自慰能夠幫助舒緩緊張的情緒,就讓你的手指去做這一件事吧!  Lack of sex can't harm men or women. You might feel frustrated, tense or horny but even though the ache can feel real, it does no damage.  Masturbation helps relieve the frustration so let your fingers do the walking…    “While you can't get pregnant from oral sex, it can still spread STIs” 
2021-12-30

無「套」無愛 No Glove No Love

如何令他使用衛生套  How to make him use a condom    當一些男性極度注重安全性行為,每次性愛定必佩戴衛生套時;另一些男人則嘗試說服你讓他不佩戴衛生套進行性行為。性愛時謹記保持安全,佩戴衛生套來預防自己懷孕及感染性病毒吧!  While some men are sensible enough to carry and use condoms, others will try to persuade you to have sex without one. Stay safe from unplanned pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) by carrying condoms – and using them.    如果一個男人說他不想佩戴衛生套,你可以告訴對方你不準備懷孕。即使男性願意承受性病傳染的風險,也不願意承受女方意外懷孕。  If a man says he doesn't want to use a condom, tell him you’re not ready to get pregnant. Even if a man is willing to risk an STI, he's unlikely to risk an unplanned pregnancy.    使用安全套能夠顯示你尊重你的伴侶。如果對方對你不夠尊重,沒有令你倆保持安全,跟他發生性行為真是值得的嗎?  Using a condom shows you respect your partner. If he doesn't respect you enough to help both of you stay safe, is he really worth having sex with?    如果他就他希望可以與你更貼近,就告訴對方無後顧之憂的安全性行為更令你對他的感覺更為親密。  If he says he wants to feel close to you, tell him that being able to relax and know sex is safe will make you feel much closer to him than worrying about the consequences otherwise.    如果他堅持,你可以告訴他你不想令他承受感染性病毒的風險,即使你過去只曾對過一人進行口交,亦有可能接觸到性病毒。  Should he persist, tell him that you don't want to put him at risk of any STIs. Even if you've only given a blow-job to a partner in the past, there's a chance you could have contracted something.    如果男方表示沒有防護的性行為會令他更愛你,告訴對方:如果他真的愛你,就不會令你承受任何風險。  If a man says unprotected sex will make him love you more, tell him that if he loved you, he wouldn't expect you to expose yourself to any risk.    如果男方說他愛你,所以不需要作性愛的安全措施,告訴對方:他不會讓你承受任何風險。  If a man says he loves you so you don't need to have safe sex, tell him then he wouldn’t expect you to expose yourself to any risk.    如果男方認為你拒絕不設防的性愛是不成熟的舉動,你可以告訴對方是因為你有足夠的成熟才要求保持安全!成熟是應該避免任何不必要的風險。  If a man calls you immature for refusing to have unprotected sex, tell him you're mature enough to keep yourself safe. Maturity is about knowing not to take unnecessary risks.    佩戴適合的衛生套,可以令所有感覺變得不一樣。如果對方說他覺得衛生套太緊,給他嘗試一個更大尺寸的衛生套。  Correctly fitting condom can make all the difference. Try a bigger condom like the Comfort XL if he says they feel too tight.    有少數的男性對橡膠敏感,但你倆可以選擇不含橡膠的衛生套。  A small amount of men are allergic to latex. However, you can buy latex-free condoms. Keep your condoms tin stocked to avoid disappointment.    如果男方因為你堅持使用衛生套而拒絕與你發生性行為,你尚有其他可以防止你感染性病毒及意外懷孕,而又可以紓解你性慾的方法。如果他是如此的不願意使用衛生套,你應該要想想他究竟是不是值得跟你有親密關係。  If a man refuses to let you use a condom, refuse to have sex. There are other ways you can have fun, and get pleasure without risking an STI or unplanned pregnancy – though if he's unwilling to use a condom, you may want to question whether he's worth getting intimate with at all.    “Try a bigger condom like the Comfort XL if he says they feel too tight”   
2021-12-30

正確的一夜 Right for the Night

應該與不應該  The dos and don'ts of casual sex  性關係可以是好的,但有時,你卻不能從中享受。你可能希望專注於工作、愛好或與朋友聚會;可能你並不想安定下來;或者你要享受度假式樂趣。性愛並不代表要有附帶條件的,但有些想法使它更有趣味。  Relationships can be great but sometimes, you're not in that space. You might want to focus on  work, hobbies or friends. Perhaps you don't want to settle down; or  you're after some holiday fun. Sex doesn't have to come with strings attached – but a little thought makes it lots more fun.    保護自己。每一個新的性伴侶帶來了新的健康風險,如果你不使用衛生套,你就是自找麻煩(也許找來了嬰兒)。別忘記口交也有感染性病的風險。  Protect Yourself. Every new partner brings new sexual health risks, and if you don't use a condom you're asking for trouble (and maybe a baby).  Remember oral sex carries risks of sexually transmitted infections too.    檢查和學習。檢查其他性傳播疾病的跡象如發炎,潰瘍和性交時疼痛:衛生套不能防止所有的性傳播疾病,所以在你的身體享受之前,您必須先考慮清楚。如果有猶疑,就不要做了。  Look and Learn. Check for other STI signs such as inflammation, sores and pain on intercourse: condoms don't protect against all STIs so you need to use your brain before you use your body. If in doubt, don't.    定期測試:許多性傳播疾病沒有徵兆,所以測試是唯一的方法確保你無受到感染。  Get Tested Regularly: Many STIs don't have symptoms, so getting tested is the only way to ensure you're free of infection.    戴上衛生套。如果你想通過性愛來感到被愛,或提高你的自信心,隨便的性關係並不會為你帶來滿足。畢竟,你很容易地達到一個高潮而沒有任何心動的感覺。如果隨便的性愛不會令你煩惱,你才好進行這種關係。  Wear an Emotional Condom. If you want sex to feel loved or boost your confidence, you're unlikely to be satisfied by sleeping around. After all, you can easily give yourself an orgasm without any heartache. Only have casual sex if it's not going to upset you.    保護你的聲譽。如果你選擇擁有這一種隨便性關係的生活方式,有些人可能因此你這種為而判斷你的為人。你應該想清楚你應該向誰人道出你的生活方式,但你的朋友如果很關心你的行為,你一定要仔細聆聽朋友的說話。  Protect Your Reputation. If you choose to have casual sex, some people may judge you for it. Think carefully about who you tell about your lifestyle: but do listen if friends say they're concerned about your behaviour.    保持安全。與陌生人回家總有風險。讓你的朋友知道你將要去那裡,跟誰去,和甚麼時候你會     回來。不要邀請陌生人去你的家;否則,你可能在早上發現手機丟失了– 或者出現更差的情況。  Stay Safe. Going home with a stranger has risks. Make sure a friend knows where you're going, who you're going with and when you'll be back – and don't invite strangers back to yours. Otherwise you could find your phone missing in the morning – or worse.    誠實。借醉行兇來得到性是對別人不公平的,而且亦可能導致麻煩。無論它是一個聲譽問題或其他不愉快後果,不好的事情總會隨之而來。  Be Honest. Lying to get someone into bed is unfair and can lead to trouble. Whether it's a reputation or a teary ex, bad things come from lying to get sex.    謹慎選擇。如果你了解一個人,你都會希望與對方有相互的信任、喜愛和尊敬的感覺 – 這帶來更好的性愛。不要與一個愛你的人隨便發生關係 – 這是對他們不公平。  Choose Carefully: If you know someone, you're more likely to have mutual trust, affection and respect – and that makes for better sex. Don't pick someone who's in love with you for casual sex though – that's unfair on them.    尊重你的伴侶。性愛是兩個人的樂趣,所以一定要盡可能令對方獲得的和你的一樣多。  Respect your Lover: Casual sex is about both people having fun so make sure they get as much out of it as you do.    尊重自己:如果你早已擁有良好的自信,那你隨便與人發生性關係便沒有問題。健康的性愛不會讓你完事後感覺很差:如果你是這樣,你應該考慮一下這樣的性關係是否合適你。  Respect Yourself: Only have casual sex if you can do so while maintaining a healthy sense of self esteem. Healthy sex doesn't make you feel bad afterwards: if you do, think about whether the sex you are having is right for you.    “Casual sex is about both people having fun so make sure they get as much out of it as you do.” 
2021-12-30

性愛及懷孕 Sex and Pregnancy

  事實與謬誤  Facts and fallacies    性愛與懷孕通常被視為彼此的禁忌── 諷刺的是,懷孕的原因卻因為性行為。無論如何,我們都沒有理由將懷孕視為性生活的終結。以下是一些普遍的迷思。  Sex and pregnancy is often seen as a taboo subject – somewhat ironically given how pregnancy generally happens. However, there's no reason pregnancy need mean the end of your sex life. Here are some of the most common myths.    你懷孕的時候不能有性行為:除非你有健康問題導致不能有性行為,否則你仍然可以與伴侶發生性行為,直至產子。不過,如果你有任何出血情況,你必須予醫生或助產士作檢查。另外,如果你有某些身體上的問題令你於懷孕時性交存在風險,例如宮頸較為脆弱,那麼,在造成遺憾之前,一定得安全一點。  You can't have sex during pregnancy: Unless you have any health issues to contend with, you can have sex right up until the moment that your waters break (assuming you want to). However, do check with your doctor or midwife if you've had any bleeding, or if there are any physical conditions that might make it risky, such as a weak cervix. Better to be safe than sorry.    懷孕的時候性交會傷害嬰兒:在懷孕的正常情況下,性行為是不會對嬰兒造成傷害,即是傳統男上女下的「傳教士」體位。女性子宮的肌肉及羊膜有保護胚胎的能力。其實,在懷孕時進行某幾種特定的體位可以感覺到更舒適,而且,當性行為中急促的心跳及高潮過後,有機會令腹中嬰兒活動更多。如果你有出血情況,無論你有性病毒感染,或是藥物導致,請先諮詢你的醫生。  Having sex while pregnant can harm the baby: In a normal pregnancy, having sex will do no harm at all, even in missionary position. The mucus plug over your cervix teamed with your womb's muscles and the amniotic sac all serve to keep your baby safe. However, certain positions may feel more comfortable, and there's a chance that your racing heartbeat after orgasm might make the baby move around more than usual. If you suffer from bleeding, either of you has a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) or you have any medical cause for concern, do check with your doctor first.    在懷孕時性交會感到痛楚:假設你是健康地懷孕,在懷孕時性行為是不會受到傷害的。你可能經歷過高潮後,發生抽筋,或者進行某些體位時感到不適。這些情況,可以選擇一些由女性控制性交強度及深入程度的體位,例如女上男下;又或避免深入陰道的體位方式,例如背進式。  Sex during pregnancy is painful: Assuming your pregnancy is healthy, sex during pregnancy shouldn't hurt. You may experience cramps after orgasm, or find certain positions uncomfortable. However, opting for positions that allow the woman to control the depth of penetration such as woman on top can help, as can avoiding deep penetration positions such as doggie style.    懷孕會令你沒有性慾:嬰兒的變化、荷爾蒙的改變及孕吐都可以令人不安,這樣都可能令你減少性慾,當然這情況不一定發生。你應該尋找你生活中最適合的性生活,有些女性會在懷孕時性慾高漲,發現她們的身體更為敏感;有些人則發現身體變得比以前不敏感;有些人則覺得身體經常轉變。傾聽你的身體,不要使自己太大壓力,做一些令你感到舒適的事。如果你沒有性慾,你可以運用手及口取悅你的伴侶,維持你倆親密的感情──但不要忘記為對方自慰只是一個選擇。  Being pregnant turns you off sex: Insecurity about your changing body, changing hormones or morning sickness (which doesn't just happen in the morning despite its name) may make you feel less inclined to have sex but that's by no means guaranteed.  You could find yourself having the best sex of your life. Some women become hyper-aroused during pregnancy. Some find their body gets more sensitive, others find it becomes less sensitive and some find it changes over time. Listen to your body, don't put yourself under pressure and do what feels right. If you go off sex, you can pleasure your partner with your hands or mouthinstead to help keep the intimate connection between you – and don't forget masturbation is an option for both of you too.    “There's no reason pregnancy need mean the end of your sex life.” 
2021-12-30

甜心,今晚 我不想要 Not Tonight, Dear

  解決彼此在性慾上的不協調  Dealing with libido differences    性行活難以協調是很多雜誌與博客網站最常提及到的問題。尋找一個能夠在情感上及生活習慣上與你配合得來,已經非常困難的事;因此,性生活上的一致經常被忽略,不過,這其實不是一個完全不能補救的問題。  Libido mismatch is one of the most common problems seen in magazines and blogging websites. Finding someone who you are compatible with on an emotional and lifestyle level is hard enough. Sharing the same sex drive can often be overlooked – but it needn't be an irreparable problem.    人們渴望性有不同的原因:受某種吸引力影響、感情的肯定、希望得到情感上的注意、紓解壓力,或者單單是生理上的需求。無論任何原因,都無對錯之分。可能你在星期一晚上因為某些原因想與某人發生關係,而星期五你卻希望與別的人做愛。不過,了解你們產生性慾的原因可以幫助解決性生活不協調的問題,令事情更容易控制。  People crave sex for different reasons: affection, validation of attractiveness and desirability, attention, distraction, stress relief or simply orgasm. None of these is right or wrong, and indeed, you may well want sex for one reason on a Monday night and quite another by Friday. However, understanding why you both want sex can help make libido mismatch easier to handle.    如果你的愛侶希望以性來紓解壓力,「按摩」也可以是你們在性以外的選擇;如果是因為生理需要,這有很多方法都能為男女帶來快感,不一定必須進行陰道性交;如果伴侶是因為希望確定你的愛意或是對你的一種讚美,而想以性來表達的話,你需要明白愛情是在你倆之間確實存在的,很多方法都可以滿足對方在愛情上的心理需求,例如彼此晚上在沙發上親密地擁抱亦能令對方感受愛意。  If your lover wants sex as stress relief, a massage may provide an alternative that suits you both. If it's about orgasm, there are plenty of ways to pleasure a man or woman that don't involve penetrative sex. Should affection be the objective, an evening cuddling up on the sofa may sate the needs; and if it's about validation, bring on the compliments.    如果你的伴侶沒有性愛的興緻,對方便容易覺得你沒有吸引力;但這種情況的問題是出於對方身上多於在你身上-壓力、沮喪、某些藥物(合法與非法的)與不健康的生活習慣都是令性慾減少的其中一些原因。當然他的性慾下降亦有可能是認為你不夠吸引力,但很多時根本問題是在於對方身上,給予對方關懷比你獨自不安更有用。  It can be easy to feel unattractive if your partner doesn't want sex but it's more likely to be about them than you. Stress, depression, certain pharmaceuticals (both legal and illegal) and an unhealthy lifestyle are just a few of the reasons someone might go off sex.  While it is possible that a partner has ceased to find you attractive, it's more likely they've got their own issues going on, and being empathetic and caring will be a lot more useful than getting needy or insecurity.    媒體將男性定型為性飢渴,而女性則為「抗拒者」;但現實是,男性有時也會沒有心情及興緻。開心見誠的溝通與坦誠的討論將會更容易解決性生活的不協調。如果其中涉及一些根本問題,應該諮詢專業人士的建議。  While the media portrays men as sex-hungry and women as resistant, in reality, men are just as likely to have times when they're not in the mood. Open communication and honest discussion will help make differences in libido easier to deal with. If there are deep-rooted issues, counselling may help.    自慰已經被證實可以提高人的性慾,所以,如果你感到你的性慾下降,而沒有其他方法可以解決,嘗試定期自慰可以令你重新燃起慾望。  Masturbation has been shown to increase people's sex drive so if you feel your desire waning and there are no other issues to contend with, simply indulging in more regular self-pleasure may help you kick-start your sex drive again.    很多人發覺他們因為雙方關係的前進而失去了興趣,最初因為新鮮感而引起的性慾亦慢慢減退。有很多方法都可以令關係重新回復激情及浪漫-當問題出現後,你愈早解決,你的性生活亦能愈早重回軌道。  Many people find they lose interest in sex as a relationship progresses, after the initial rush of lust has passed. However, there are lots of ways to bring the romance and spice back into your relationship – and the sooner you tackle the problem after it emerges, the sooner your sex life is likely to be back on track.    “Open communication and honest discussion will help make differences in libido easier to deal with.” 
2021-12-30

性趣的50道陰影 50 Shades of Play

性趣的50道 陰影   Introducing kink into your relationship    有些人很滿足於「單純的愛」,只做基本的行為,但亦有很多人對「奇想」很好奇,可以由服飾扮演,到綑綁式,到肛交及其他。  While some people are perfectly happy with 'vanilla' sex – just the basics – many people are curious about kink from dressing up and bondage to anal play and beyond.    對非普遍的性愛好奇並沒有錯,亦沒有人可以批評你的性幻想。可是,如果你要分享你的幻想,你應該先慢慢來。如果拍打對方的屁股可以令你興奮,在性愛時先問問對方是否可以讓你這樣做(在這樣甜蜜的時刻,對方可能更容易答應),你亦可以由此看看對方的反應。如果你喜歡綑綁式性愛,開始時問對方能否在性愛過程中綑綁著你。如果你喜歡服飾扮演,你可以於網上給他看看這種服飾,及詢問對方的感覺。  There's nothing wrong with kink and no one should judge you for your fantasies. However, start slowly when it comes to sharing your desires. If spanking sets you aflame, ask your lover for a slap on the bum during sex – it can often be easier in the heat of the moment – to test their reaction. Should bondage appeal, start by asking your lover to pin you down during sex. And if you like latex, show them an outfit online and ask what they think    情色故事是一個能夠喚起你慾望的好方法。為你的情人購買一本性感的書籍,內容包含了你想要的特別的性愛方式,並叫對方將他們喜歡的情節顯示給你知道,又或朗讀出來。  Erotic stories can be a great way to communicate your desires in a subtle way. Buy your lover a sexy book that includes the kink that turns you on, and ask them to show or read you the bits they like (if any) out loud.    相反,如果你有信心你的愛人有開放的思想,那你就直接一點問對方有沒有一些他想嘗試的新主意及告訴你的想法。細心聆聽你愛人所求,不要批評及考慮一下令他們的幻想成真(假設你對對方的幻想並不反感),你會發現你的特別喜好亦將得到正面的回應。  Alternatively, if you're confident that your lover will be open minded, be direct. Ask if there's anything new they'd like to try and tell them what appeals to you. By listening to your lover's desires, being non-judgmental and considering making their dreams come true (assuming you don't find their kinks a turn off), you're more likely to get a positive response to your own penchants.    在進行不同類型的特別喜好 (綑綁、控制、施虐及被虐)前,先與對方訂一些安全字詞,這些字詞需要確保在性愛時不會用到(很多人在進行這些性愛時會用「不」或「停」當作一種趣味)。很多人選擇以交通燈的紅色代表停止;黃燈代表慢一點;綠燈代表繼續。  Before any form of BDSM (bondage, domination, sadism and masochism), however mild, set a safe word. This is a word you wouldn't usually use during sex (some people like to use 'no' and 'stop' during kinky play as part of a 'scene'). Many people opt for a traffic light system with red meaning stop, amber meaning slow down and green meaning 'go for it'.    玩樂時要保持安全、講求理智及雙方的同意。這個意思是你需要參考多些安全守則(差不多所有不同類型的性愛玩意在網上都有安全守則)。如果你的伴侶受酒精或藥物影響,你就應該停止進行這一類性愛,而只探索一些你們都同意的方式。  Keep play safe, sane and consensual. This means reading up more on any safety guidelines (almost ever kink has safety info online), avoiding doing anything while either partner is under the influence of drink or drugs and only exploring things that you both want to.    如果肛交令你不適,可以使用多些潤滑劑、進行得慢一點,以及謹記要確保安全。只要得到雙方的同意,男性及女性都可以從中享受,因此不要害怕探索另外一個不同的洞穴。  If anal play gets you off, use lots of lube, go slowly and make sure you keep it safe. Both men and women can enjoy it, as long as there is mutual desire to do so.  So don't feel bad about exploring different roles.    這一類特別的愛好可以是一個美妙方式,去加添你與伴侶的激情、感覺更親密、更包容及更信任。以正確的方法去認識它,你會無法想像它會帶你到甚麼境界!  Kink can be a wonderful way to add spice to your relationship, building intimacy, acceptance and trust. Approach it in the right way and who knows where it might lead. 
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