應該與不應該 

The dos and don'ts of casual sex 

性關係可以是好的,但有時,你卻不能從中享受。你可能希望專注於工作、愛好或與朋友聚會;可能你並不想安定下來;或者你要享受度假式樂趣。性愛並不代表要有附帶條件的,但有些想法使它更有趣味。 

Relationships can be great but sometimes, you're not in that space. You might want to focus on  work, hobbies or friends. Perhaps you don't want to settle down; or  you're after some holiday fun. Sex doesn't have to come with strings attached – but a little thought makes it lots more fun. 

 

保護自己。每一個新的性伴侶帶來了新的健康風險,如果你不使用衛生套,你就是自找麻煩(也許找來了嬰兒)。別忘記口交也有感染性病的風險。 

Protect Yourself. Every new partner brings new sexual health risks, and if you don't use a condom you're asking for trouble (and maybe a baby).  Remember oral sex carries risks of sexually transmitted infections too. 

 

檢查和學習。檢查其他性傳播疾病的跡象如發炎,潰瘍和性交時疼痛:衛生套不能防止所有的性傳播疾病,所以在你的身體享受之前,您必須先考慮清楚。如果有猶疑,就不要做了。 

Look and Learn. Check for other STI signs such as inflammation, sores and pain on intercourse: condoms don't protect against all STIs so you need to use your brain before you use your body. If in doubt, don't. 

 

定期測試:許多性傳播疾病沒有徵兆,所以測試是唯一的方法確保你無受到感染。 

Get Tested Regularly: Many STIs don't have symptoms, so getting tested is the only way to ensure you're free of infection. 

 

戴上衛生套。如果你想通過性愛來感到被愛,或提高你的自信心,隨便的性關係並不會為你帶來滿足。畢竟,你很容易地達到一個高潮而沒有任何心動的感覺。如果隨便的性愛不會令你煩惱,你才好進行這種關係。 

Wear an Emotional Condom. If you want sex to feel loved or boost your confidence, you're unlikely to be satisfied by sleeping around. After all, you can easily give yourself an orgasm without any heartache. Only have casual sex if it's not going to upset you. 

 

保護你的聲譽。如果你選擇擁有這一種隨便性關係的生活方式,有些人可能因此你這種為而判斷你的為人。你應該想清楚你應該向誰人道出你的生活方式,但你的朋友如果很關心你的行為,你一定要仔細聆聽朋友的說話。 

Protect Your Reputation. If you choose to have casual sex, some people may judge you for it. Think carefully about who you tell about your lifestyle: but do listen if friends say they're concerned about your behaviour. 

 

保持安全。與陌生人回家總有風險。讓你的朋友知道你將要去那裡,跟誰去,和甚麼時候你會     回來。不要邀請陌生人去你的家;否則,你可能在早上發現手機丟失了- 或者出現更差的情況。 

Stay Safe. Going home with a stranger has risks. Make sure a friend knows where you're going, who you're going with and when you'll be back – and don't invite strangers back to yours. Otherwise you could find your phone missing in the morning – or worse. 

 

誠實。借醉行兇來得到性是對別人不公平的,而且亦可能導致麻煩。無論它是一個聲譽問題或其他不愉快後果,不好的事情總會隨之而來。 

Be Honest. Lying to get someone into bed is unfair and can lead to trouble. Whether it's a reputation or a teary ex, bad things come from lying to get sex. 

 

謹慎選擇。如果你了解一個人,你都會希望與對方有相互的信任、喜愛和尊敬的感覺 - 這帶來更好的性愛。不要與一個愛你的人隨便發生關係 - 這是對他們不公平。 

Choose Carefully: If you know someone, you're more likely to have mutual trust, affection and respect – and that makes for better sex. Don't pick someone who's in love with you for casual sex though – that's unfair on them. 

 

尊重你的伴侶。性愛是兩個人的樂趣,所以一定要盡可能令對方獲得的和你的一樣多。 

Respect your Lover: Casual sex is about both people having fun so make sure they get as much out of it as you do. 

 

尊重自己:如果你早已擁有良好的自信,那你隨便與人發生性關係便沒有問題。健康的性愛不會讓你完事後感覺很差:如果你是這樣,你應該考慮一下這樣的性關係是否合適你。 

Respect Yourself: Only have casual sex if you can do so while maintaining a healthy sense of self esteem. Healthy sex doesn't make you feel bad afterwards: if you do, think about whether the sex you are having is right for you. 

 

Casual sex is about both people having fun so make sure they get as much out of it as you do.