了解G點  Understanding the G-spot      G點是其中一個被媒體常常強調為可以喚起最大情慾的區域。它的存在多次被質疑，比質疑尼斯湖水怪更多；同時，這個神秘區域的作用和功能，都有很大的爭議。 有些人聲稱它是陰蒂的延續；其他人則聲稱它並不存在。然而，當科學家都有不同意見之時，有一件事卻是肯定的，就是每個女人都不同。  The G-spot is one of the media's favourite erogenous zones. Its existence has been questioned more times than the Lock Ness Monster and there seems very little consensus about the role and function of this elusive area. Some claim it's an extension of the clitoris. Others claim it's imaginary. However, while scientist's opinions do vary, one thing's for sure. Every woman is different.    有些婦女的G點就在陰道內壁的幾英寸，當這個位置被按下或被撫摸時，能夠給予女性極大的快感；其他人卻只覺得按撫這個部位只會令她們有尿意；甚至有些女性並不覺得有甚麼特別感覺。摩擦陰道內的不同部位，可引起肌肉收縮，有些女性表示，如果她們的G點被刺激，她們的陰道會分泌出液體。  Some women have an area a few inches inside their vagina on the upper wall that swells when pressed and stroked, and can give intensely pleasurable sensations. Others find the same area simply gives them the urge to pee when stroked, and some women can't find it at all. Rubbing different parts inside the vagina can cause muscular contractions and some women report that they ejaculate when the area they describe as the G-spot is stimulated.    想找出你的G點，在你的陰道內滑動你的手指，然後屈曲你的指尖，好像招財貓招手的動作。過程慢慢來，在你的指頭下，留心感受你的感覺：如果你找到了G點， 該地區會較為腫脹。輕輕地持續按撫它，又或在G點上打圈探索，很快你就會發現究竟你能不能以刺激G點來得到高潮。如果它未被你發現，利用性玩具，最好用 有彎尖的，可能使你更容易找到G點。  To find your G-spot, slide a finger inside the vagina then curl the tip as if crooking the finger and beckoning someone. Go slowly and pay attention to the way it feels under your finger: if you find the G-spot, it should swell. Continue to press lightly, using circling motions to explore and you'll soon discover whether you're aroused by G-spot stimulation or not. If it proves elusive, a sex toy – ideally with a curved tip – may make your mission easier.    如果你發現它是一個可以喚起你性慾的地區，那就想想什麼體位可以更容易刺激到它。後背式（女性四肢跪下及男性從後進入）及上升的傳教士（女性的腳踝放在男性的肩膀上）都是可以刺激到G點的體位，同時亦更容易刺激女性的陰蒂。從後用手操作的刺激也是很有效的，因為有些性玩具配合它的彎頭可以刺激那個部位。  Should you discover it's a new erogenous zone, think about positions that can stimulate it. Doggy style (with the woman on her knees and man on all fours behind her) and raised missionary (with woman’s ankles clasped around the mans neck) are both great for hitting the G-spot, and make it easy for the woman to caress her clitoris too. Manual stimulation from behind can be really effective, as can toys with curved heads or strongly defined curves.    如果你未能找到你的G點，也不用擔心！我們每個人都不同，一些人感到興奮的事，對另一人有強烈的反感。可能你會發現只屬於你自己的興奮部位！  And if you can't find your G-spot? Don't worry about it. We're all different and what works for one person can be a huge turn off to another. Who knows, maybe you'll have an erogenous zone all of your own…    男性的G點  The Male G Spot    男性亦都有相似於女性G點的「G點」，名為前列腺。它就在肛門上壁內約幾英寸的位置。不是每個男人都享受前列腺刺激，但還是應該作出嘗試。很多男性在自慰時會探索過這個部位，它在其他性愛玩樂時也能增加快感，當然，一切得慢慢來、加上潤滑劑，及保護安全。  Men also have the equivalent of a G-spot – known as the prostate gland. This is a few inches inside the anus on the upper wall. Not every man enjoys prostate stimulation but it's certainly worth considering regardless of your sexuality. Many men explore it during self pleasure and it can also add pleasure to other sexual play, if taken in a slow, lubricated and safe way.    “While scientist's opinions do vary, one thing's for sure. Every woman is different.” 

選擇你的第一件性玩具  Choosing your first Toy      性玩具在人類性生活中愈來愈普遍。它能夠幫助你發現你的敏感地帶，同時亦為前戲增加新的刺激。當你選擇你的第一件玩具，即使你早已明白其安全指引，有時仍然很煩惱。以下是一些建議，能夠幫助你容易找到第一次適合你的性玩具。  Toys are an increasingly common part of people's sex lives. They’re great for helping you discover where to find your own hotspots. And they can add exciting new dimension during foreplay. When it comes to choosing your first one, the choice can be intimidating, even if you already know the safety guidelines. These tips will help make choosing your first toy easier.    震動：有些人喜歡震動的感覺；有些人初時覺得這種感覺不尋常，但慢慢就愛上這種感覺；有些人就真的不喜歡它。除非你嘗試過，否則你永遠不會知道你是那一類人。可是，你最好開始時先嘗試較溫和的震動器，一開始使用愈刺激的震動器可以令人愈受到驚嚇。一個基本子彈型的震動器是新手的好選擇。將震動程度調較至最輕微，如果你感到痛楚，把你的手在下面控制一下，或用布鋪在震動器上。如果你想它震動得更強，可以把程度提高。  Vibration: Some people like vibration. Others find the sensation unusual at first but grow to love it and some people find it leaves them cold. Until you test it out you won't know which category you fit into. However, it's worth starting with a gentle vibe as the more intense ones can be a shock to the system at first. A basic bullet vibe is a great beginner's toy. Start with it on the mildest setting. If it feels too tingly, put your hand underneath it, or use it over the top of a sheet. If you'd rather have more buzz, just turn it up.    尺寸：選擇尺寸不會過大的性玩具。玩具通常比真實的東西堅硬及密度更高，所以當伴侶認為玩具尺寸太大，你不必感到驚訝。  Size: Choose a size that doesn't seem too intimidating. Toys are typically firmer and denser than the real thing, so don't be surprise if a toy the same size as your partner feels too big.    電力：玩具可以透過電芯、充電器，甚至太陽能來供電。在購買之前請檢查清楚該玩具的電力來源，這樣就不會因為過程中不夠電力而煩惱。  Power: Toys can be powered by batteries, charge through the mains or even solar powered. Check how a toy is powered before purchasing so you don't get stuck with a toy that uses hard-to-find battery sizes.    謹慎選擇：使用玩具時，感到尷尬是很正常的，特別是新手。選擇一些較靜的玩具可以減少尷尬，而且現在已經有很多途徑能夠購買性玩具 ── 網上、街上都可以買得到。為什麼不由一些小型的，配有小環或按摩器，又或小型震動器開始？這些玩具都很適合新手使用，可以從以上挑選一些來試試水溫！  Discretion: It's normal to be shy about using a toy, particularly if you're new to it. Picking a quiet toy can help make it less embarrassing. And there are now plenty of mainstream places to buy them – both online and on the high street. Why not also start off small, with a ring, a massager or mini vibrator? These are great first time sex toys for couples that want to test the water first before diving in.    “If it feels too tingly, put your hand underneath it, or use it over the top of a sheet." 

為你倆的關係加添情趣  Adding romance to your relationship      在關係初期，我們都常常為愛侶製造浪漫氣氛，但時日過去，我們就容易把對方的存在視為理所當然。當浪漫的感覺減退，性慾自然亦隨之而減少──但無論你們在一起多久，只要你倆仍然願意為對方花點心思，關係同樣能夠保持激情。  Romancing a lover tends to come naturally in the early days but as time goes on, it's easy to take each other for granted. When romance fades, sex often follows suit – but if you make an effort to seduce your lover no matter how long you've been together, you're much more likely to keep the passion alive.    “Do something every day to make your partner feel special.”    製造約會之夜：為你倆製造單獨相處的時刻，並兩人輪流選擇約會的日期，為你倆的關係保持新鮮。你倆可以選擇一個固定的約會日子，例如，每個週二的晚上── 你倆的關係有時需要排行在生活中最優先，因此請盡量實行這一晚的約會。另外，每月固定且能夠成事的約會，比每週不能做到的約定更有效果，所以不必拘泥於約會之間相距的時間。  Set a date night: Set aside time purely for the two of you, and take it in turns to choose the date, to help keep things fresh. Pick a regular date night – say, every Tuesday – and make it cast in stone. Your relationship needs to take priority in life sometimes. Better to have a monthly date night you always stick to than a weekly one that you don't.    聆聽： 早期的約會為了發現彼此的共同興趣，及顯示對彼此的激情，我們傾向包含很多話語。但隨著時日，我們很容易對伴侶失去了耐心，關上耳朵，慢慢忘記當初愛上對方的原因。每一天為你的愛侶騰空一點時間，並顯示你愛的關懷，關注對方的說話；人會隨時間改變和成長，但當你倆都用心聆聽對方，你們就能共同成長，關係更為親密。  Listen: Early dates tend to involve lots of conversation, discovering shared interests and passions. As time goes on, it's easy to switch off to a partner and forget why you fell for them in the first place. Make time to catch up with each other every day, and show your lover respect by paying attention to what they say. People change and grow over time, and it's only by truly listening to each other that you'll grow together.    保留私人生活：如果你倆已經共同生活，這一項尤關重要。當你們會共同出席朋友們的聚會，甚至在生活中只為對方花時間，一切很快便會變得沉悶，因為如此的生活方式你倆很容易認為彼此已經清楚了對方的言行舉止。平衡你們的社交生活，包括偶然與朋友們單獨聚會、保持私人獨處的時間，你倆會發現彼此的關係能長時間保持激情。  Spend time apart: This is particularly important if you live together. If you only see friends together or spend time with each other, you're a lot more likely to get bored because it's easier to believe you know everything your partner has to say. Balance your social life to include time apart with friends – and time alone – and it's more likely you'll find your partner exciting ten years in.    每一天製造小浪漫：有些人會把 浪漫放在情人節、生日及周年紀念 上，但這只會令你太過著重這些日 子的「完美」而增加了龐大的壓力。事實上，你可以在每一天為你的愛 侶製造一點小心思，無論是放在睡 枕上的一些愛的字句、一盤愛侶喜 愛的佳餚，或是給予一個小小的稱 讚，每一天小小的浪漫都能累積成 滿滿的愛。  Make every day romantic: Some people save romance for Valentine's Day, birthdays and anniversaries but this puts too much pressure on those days to be 'perfect'. Instead, do something every day to make your partner feel special. Whether it's leaving a love note on the pillow when you go to work, cooking your partner's favourite meal or simply paying a genuine compliment, a little bit of romance every day will lead to a whole lot of love.    尊重體諒： 浪漫不是只有玫瑰花與巧克力。有時候，最浪漫的行為就是真心讓你的愛侶自由 ── 當然，這需要是雙方面的。  Compromise: Romance isn't all about roses and chocolates. Sometimes, simply letting your partner get their own way without any resentment is the most romantic option of all – as long as it goes both ways over time, of course. 

將幻想轉為現實  Turning fantasy into reality    差不多所有人都有性的幻想－從欣賞愛人穿著絲襪與吊襪帶，到一些比較複雜的情景諸如配合性玩意的性愛。一些幻想最好放在心中（例如希望與伴侶的好朋友來一次集體性愛），但分享你的一些誘惑的慾望可以使你倆的關係更為緊扣。  Almost everyone has sexual fantasies of some description, from seeing a lover in stockings and suspenders to more complex scenarios with kinky accessories galore. While some fantasies are best kept to yourself (group sex involving your partner's best friend…) sharing some of your more intimate desires can be a great way to bond with a partner.    和伴侶以俏皮的文字來分享你慾望；又或者分享一些有點色情意味的資訊或玩意，一樣達到同樣的效果。無論你用任何一種方法，先由你最低程度的性幻想開始﹐然後再根據你伴侶的反應再作下一步。  Communicating your desires with your partner can take many forms: if you're too shy to talk face to face, exchanging saucy texts, chatting over the phone or instant messenger, or sharing erotic materials can all broach the subject. Whichever method you choose, start with your mildest fantasies and work your way up based on your lover's reaction.    一個尊重別人的伴侶是不應該批評你所分享的幻想，但是不同的人喜歡不同的事，因此不能保證你倆會有同一喜好與想法。如果你的伴侶拒絕你的主意，不要指責他們又或者生氣，相反，應該尋找中間點，又或者考慮交換性幻想：我滿足你的，你也滿足我的。  While a respectful lover shouldn't judge you for sharing your fantasies, different people like different things and there's no guarantee you'll both want the same things. If a partner rejects an idea, don't blame them or sulk: instead, see if there's any middle ground – or consider trading fantasies: I'll do yours if you do mine.    如果你決定你要實行你的性幻想，你必須確定你已知悉安全守則，以及考慮一切有可能引發的情緒及身體上的反應。一些性幻想，你應該把它們只在腦海中實現。  If you decide to live out your fantasy, make sure you're familiar with any safety guidelines, and consider the potential emotional as well as physical effects. With some fantasies, you may decide to use them to inspire talking dirty but leave it at that.    同時，你亦要考慮到你伴侶的反應，因為他們只想希望嘗試一些東西，但不代表他們必定能從中得到享受。不要讓你的慾望令你變得自私，過份強迫你的伴侶滿足你的個人慾望。相反，如果有些事情你真的不願意進行，不要覺得你有義務滿足對方的性幻想。你應該要誠實，尊重對方及不要過份武斷，這會使你忽略了自己的需要。  Also, consider your partner's reaction. Just because they're willing to try something, it doesn't mean they'll necessarily enjoy it: don't let your arousal make you selfish and over-ride your lover's desires in favour of your own. Conversely, don't feel obliged to say yes to something you don't really want to do. It's better to be honest – without being disrespectful or judgemental – than ignore your own needs.    實現性幻想可以很有趣，但假如事情不如你所預期，你可能會發現想像中的美好被現實打破。想一想你是否願意冒著隨時失去你美好的想像而去令你的幻想實踐出來。  Living out fantasies can be fun but if things don't go to plan (or even if they do, sometimes) you may find the power of the fantasy fades in the light of reality. Think about whether you're willing to risk losing a surefire arousal builder for the chance to make your dreams come true.    如果你還是決定將你的幻想中實現，將事情慢慢來及先觀察你伴侶的反應。如果對方對你的行為不感興趣，那就應該停止，及不要將你的幽默感留下。放鬆、坦承地溝通與誠實是重點，為你的性愛生活帶來全新的局面。  If you decide you still want to make your fantasy come true, take it slowly and check your partner's reaction throughout. Stop if you see they're not into what you're doing – and don't leave your sense of humour at the bedroom door. Relax, communicate clearly and be honest and who knows, you could add a whole new dimension to your sex life.    “Start with your mildest fantasies and work your way up based on your lover's reaction.”   

如何與你的情人討論性  How to Communicate With Your Lover About Sex      如果你曾經讀過性意見的專欄，其中一篇建議你一定看過－「溝通」。不過，這確實不容易。大部份人都有他們心中的不安、包袱及死穴，其中「性」就是一個令苦惱的題目—畢竟，沒有人希望自己在床上表現差勁。  If you ever read sex advice columns or blogs, there's one piece of advice that you're sure to see – ‘communicate’. However, this is not always easy. Most people have their own insecurities, hang-ups and triggers, and sex is a particularly loaded topic. No one wants to think of themselves as bad in bed, after all.    在合理的控制下，性愛溝通是你與伴侶其中一個建立關係的好方法。這是一些很獨特的東西，只得你們兩人分享；同時，這亦是一個性感的秘密，一個促進美好的兩性關係的鎖匙。你可能會覺得尷尬，但如果你已經很了解一個人，可以與對方發生性關係，你亦是可以與對方談論有關性的話題了：真正與愛人分享你的身體﹐也需要分享你的想法。  Managed properly, sexual communication is one of the best ways to build a bond with your lover. It's something unique that only the two of you share. It's a sexy secret and a benefit of being in a loving relationship. While you may feel embarrassed, if you know someone well enough to have sex, you also know them well enough to talk about it: truly sharing your body with a lover also entails sharing your mind.    大部份人曾以為，性愛的溝通是一些負面的分享經驗：「我不喜歡你觸碰我胸部的方式」，又或「我今晚不想做愛。」可是，為了令性愛的溝通成為你倆關係自然的一部份，你可以將負面的說話調和一下，例如當你的情人成功挑起你的情慾時，給予讚美。如果你發現你會特別回憶起某個與對方特別熱情的時刻，也深情地告訴你的伴侶吧！每次你在床上嘗試了新的東西，詢問你的愛侶的感覺，對方究竟享不享受，以及分享你的感覺。經過定時讚美你的愛人，你會發現，當你嘗試挑逗對方，或改正他們缺乏快感的探索，對方會少了防禦性。  All too often, sexual communication is about sharing negative experiences: “I don't like the way you touch my breasts,” or “I don't want to have sex tonight.” However, by making sexual communication a natural part of your relationship, you can balance this negativity with compliments, Tell your lover when they arouse you. If you find yourself reminiscing about a particularly hot time together, fondly tell your lover. After you try something new in the bedroom, ask your lover if it was enjoyable, and share your own feelings about the experience. By genuinely praising your lover's prowess on a regular basis, you'll help them feel less defensive when you try to hone or correct their less pleasurable explorations.    你亦可以將性愛的溝通成為有趣前戲的一部份。輪流當「學者」與「學生」，又或者向你的愛人實際示範你究竟喜歡對方撫摸你那裡及如何撫摸。就讓你的愛人練習一下，指導對方的步伐；當他們以你喜愛的方式，成功令你得到快感，獎勵你的愛人與你交換角色，和關注他們給予你的指導。在你的人生中，你不可能做不到一周一次的指導堂。事實上，每一晚都適合上課。  You can also turn sexual communication into a fun foreplay game. Take it in turns to play 'scholar' and 'learner' and give your lover a practical demonstration of where and how you like to be touched. Let your lover practice, steering their way, and once they've pleasured you in the way that you most enjoy, reward your lover by swapping roles and paying attention to their lesson. There's no reason you can't make a sexy lesson a weekly part of your life – or indeed, every night if you're suitably inspired.    不要以為所有溝通都包括了交談。你可以為對方寫一個你在性愛時最愛做的內容的情色小說（如果你是第一次分享幻想，就不要太瘋狂，看看你的伴侶的反應再作決定）你亦可以發一個性感的文字訊息給你的伴侶，刻意問一些俏皮的問題。你亦可以用舊方法，偷偷地把情信放進伴侶的袋內，又或者一起進行網絡性愛。即使你倆人都住在同一間屋，製造一些距離可以令你們更容易打開自己：誰又會知道，當你與伴侶有足夠的溝通，你的性幻想會不會成真呢？  Don't think all communication has to involve talking either. You could write your lover an erotic story detailing exactly what you'd like to do (don't go too wild if it's the first time you're sharing fantasies – gauge your lover's reaction first). You could send your partner a sexy text, asking a saucy question to garner a response. You could slip an old-fashioned love letter into your partner's pocket or try cybersex together. Even if you're simply in two rooms of the same house, the distance created can help make it easier to open up: and who knows, you could make your fantasies realities if you communicate effectively enough.    記住，性愛的溝通是雙方面的。當你指導別人、分享你的愛好時，你亦需要聆聽你伴侶，因為對方亦會分享他們的愛好。誠實地了解你所需要的及慾望，那你就可以得到你想要的性愛及一段你所希望的關係。  Remember, sexual communication goes both ways. You need to listen to your partner as much as you teach, and share your own preferences as openly as you expect your partner to share theirs. Be honest about your needs and desires and you're much more likely to get the sex, and relationship that you really want.    “You can also turn sexual communication into a fun foreplay game.” 

柔軟體操般的性愛體位  Acrobatic sex positions      當以前喜愛的性愛體位，好像傳教士及後進式體位可以帶來歡樂，有時候加入新的元素，便能得到更有趣的體驗。嘗試改變一些肢體動作，為性愛注入新的熱情；但謹記一切要放慢動作，特別是一般人都未必習慣劇烈運動，你並不想因為這樣而拉傷你後背的肌肉。當你能夠完成這些動作，要給予對方最大的快感並不是難題！  While old favourites like missionary and doggie style can be great fun, sometimes it's good to mix things up. Try one of these more acrobatic twists to add a little spice. Do take it slowly though, particularly if you're not generally all that active – you don't want to put your back out or pull a muscle. And after you've done, there's no harm in giving each other a thorough rub down…    牆上的花朵  The Wallflower    固名思義，你需要一道牆壁作為這個體位的支撐。女性站在牆那邊，盡量提高她的腿；男性面向牆壁，站在女性兩腿之間，用手托著支撐女性提高的那條腿。在這個體位下向前推的時候，男性的大腿會摩擦到女性的陰蒂，而女性在過程中會向後壓向牆壁，得到更「深入」的感覺。  As the name suggests, you use the wall for support in this position. The woman stands side-on to the wall, raising the leg that's furthest away from it. The man then stands in between her thighs, facing the wall, supporting the woman's raised leg with his hand. His thigh will rub against the woman's clit as he thrusts and she can press against the wall to push back and deepen penetration.    芭蕾舞演員 Prima Ballerina    如果你覺得「牆上的花朵」所需要的柔軟度太大，「芭蕾舞演員」就是一個較容易的站立式體位。女性面向牆壁站立，屈曲手臂以支撐身體及抬高她的腿；男性在女性背後向前推的時候，雙手扶住女性的臀部兩側以助她的平衡。這個體位可以令男性插入更深，及亦能給予男性視覺享受——他一定面帶笑容。  If the Wallflower is a little too much of a stretch for you, Prima Ballerina is an easier standing sex position. The woman stands facing the wall, bending over to brace her arms against it and lifting one leg. The man then slides in from behind, holding on to the woman's hips to help her balance, and thrusts away. Penetration is deep and the man has a more intimate view, which is sure to put a smile on his face.    L  for Loving    如果你喜歡以床上為基礎的性愛姿勢，「L  for Loving」是一個簡易的體位但卻充滿激情。女性躺下，並盡量提高她的腿；男性跪在她兩腿之間並向入滑動，以雙手抬高她的臀部令他可以作更深入的抽插。如果女性抬高雙腿感到疲累，她的雙腿可以倚著的胸膛作支撐。這個體位可以作更深入的抽插，以及令男性更容易在過程中愛撫對方。  If you prefer a bed-based position, L is for Loving is simple but passionate. The woman lies on her back, raising her leg in the air as high as it will go. The man then kneels between her legs and slides inside, lifting her hips with his hands to make penetration easier. If the woman gets tired of raising her leg, she can rest it against the man's chest for support. This position offers deep penetration and easy access for the man to caress the woman and vice versa.    “After you've done, there's no harm in giving each other a thorough rub down.”   

建立性愛自信  Building Sexual Confidence      我們很容易假設每個人在自己的睡房都能夠感受到安全感，但卻有不少人對於性是感到不安及懷有很多疑慮。即使是小小的行動，仍然有很多方法可以提高你的性自信。  It's easy to assume that everyone is confident in the bedroom except for you, but in reality, most people have some insecurities or concerns about sex. Though it may take a little work, there are easy ways to boost your sexual confidence.    誠實一點：這不代表你要向你的伴侶顯示所有缺點，只是當你感到尷尬、緊張及不安的時候，你應該告訴你的伴侶，令對方不會不自覺強迫你走出你的安全區域。  Be honest: That doesn't mean listing everything that you think is wrong about yourself to your partner, but instead telling your lover if you feel shy, nervous or insecure, so that they don't push you beyond your comfort zone.    自我認識：如果你不清楚自己需要，也就很難在伴侶面前有自信。你的需要不必局限於具體行為上，幻想也可以助你體驗不同的性角色，實不實行也是你的選擇。  Know yourself: It's hard to be confident with a lover if you don't know what you want. And don't just think of it in a physical way. Fantasising can help you explore how comfortable you are with different sexual roles. Whether you make them come true is entirely up to you.    尊重伴侶：學習男性或女性基本的構造，並詢問你的伴侶的喜好。你不必需要懂得讀心術或體操能手也能做到一個好情人── 關注你伴侶的感受（與你自己的）便是最佳情人。  Be informed: Learn the basics of male or female anatomy and ask your lover what they like. You don't need to be a mindreader or contortionist to be a great lover – just care about your partner's pleasure (and your own).    遮掩：如果你對暴露身體的某部份感到尷尬，你首先不要在壓力底下將該部位裸呈相見。在早期的階段，身上保留衣服蔽體並不是錯誤，你可以與伴侶慢慢建立信任，慢慢將自己向伴侶呈現真實的一面。不過，不要將這個方法視作唯一解決尷尬的方案：這只是一個簡單的途徑去助你建立足夠的自信，將自己的裸體呈現於人前。如果你的伴侶希望與你有性行為，對方會喜歡他所看到的，你大可以放心，不必感到尷尬。  Cover up: If you're insecure about a particular part of your body, don't put yourself under the pressure of getting naked at first. There's nothing wrong with keeping a few clothes on during early make out sessions: you can reveal yourself gradually to a lover, as you build trust. However, don't see this as a permanent solution: it's simply a step in the road to help you build up your confidence enough to get naked. You can rest assured that if a lover wants to have sex with you, they like what they see.      穿衣：重申一次，這只是慢慢建立信心的一個過程，而不是終極的解決方案。有些人在穿著性感的內衣，或戴著眼罩，會更能開放自己。這似乎是有點奇怪但的而且確，不同的服裝可以幫我們去定義及扮演某個角色。所以，這是其中一個最簡單方法令我們減少尷尬，增加自信。  Dress up: Again, this is a step along the road rather than ultimate solution, but some people find it's easier to be sexual if they get dressed up in sexy lingerie, or even wear a mask (think Venetian masked ball rather than George Bush). It may sound silly but clothes help us play roles, and acting as if you're sexually confident is one of the easiest ways to become sexually confident.    令自己更健美：運動及健康生活不止令你看來更美麗，而且你會感覺到更容易恢復情緒。更美妙的是，與你的伴侶一起運動，你倆的安多芬都會提升，令你倆更感快樂正面，及精力充沛。  Get fit: Exercise and healthy living don't just make you look better – you'll feel more emotionally resilient too. Better yet, exercise with your lover so you both benefit from pumping endorphins and extra stamina.    “Self love helps build sexual confidence.” 

如何與女性談論使用衛生套  How to talk condoms with a woman      你可能認為只有男性才會被別人要求使用衛生套，但有時候一些女性亦不希望男性使用它。現在就著手對付這個問題，令你自己保持安全吧！  You might think that men are the ones who need to be talked into using condoms, but some women can be just as bad. Tackle the condom question to keep yourself safe.     如果一個女性說她不想你使用衛生套，你得小心。如果她對你這樣說，以前還對什麼人說過這樣的話呢？即使她沒有感染性病毒，你仍然需要問自己一個問題；你對對方意外懷孕作好準備了嗎？  If a woman says she doesn't want to use a condom, it's not time to party. If she says it to you, who else has she said it to? Even if she doesn't have a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI), – you also have to ask yourself if you’re ready to have unplanned pregnancy?    使用衛生套顯示對你伴侶的尊重。將這個思想告訴她，如果你尊重她多於她尊重她自己，跟她發生性行為是個好的主意嗎？  Using a condom shows you respect your partner. Tell her this. If you respect her more than she respects herself, is sex really a good idea?          衛生套可以令男性在性愛時更持久。告訴她你希望盡能力給予最大的快感，而衛生套亦可幫助達到快感。  Condoms can help men last longer during sex. Tell her you want to give her as much pleasure as you possibly can, and the condom helps.    如果她希望可以與你的感覺更為親密，就告訴她無後顧之憂的安全性行為更令你對她的感覺更為親密。  If she says she wants to feel close to you, tell her that being able to relax and know sex is safe will make you feel much closer to her than worrying about the consequences otherwise.    有一些衛生套是專為更好的性愛感覺而設計，如果對方不喜歡衛生套的感覺，嘗試凸點縲紋裝可以令她感受更好。  Some condoms are designed to make sex even better. Try a Mutual Climax condom if she says she doesn't like the way condoms feel.    如果她堅持，你可以告訴她你不想令她有感染性病毒的風險，即使你過去只有一人為你進行口交，亦有可能接觸到性病毒。  Should she persist, tell her that you don't want to put her at risk of any STIs. Even if you've only had a blow-job from a partner in the past, there's a chance you could have contracted something.    如果對於你堅持安全性行為而遭女性嘲笑你不夠勇敢，告於她你清楚甚麼是性愛責任，這是成熟的表現，事實上這才是一個男人應做的事。有少部份的女性對橡膠衛生套敏感，你可以使用不含橡膠的衛生套。  If a woman says you're not a man if you don't have unprotected sex, tell her you're mature enough to know how to be sexually responsible – and that makes you much more of a man A small amount of women are allergic to latex condoms. However, you can buy latex-free condoms. Keep your condom tin stocked to avoid disappointment.    如果女伴因為你堅持使用衛生套而拒絕與你發生性行為，這確實令人為難，但總有其他可以防止你感染性病毒及令別人意外懷孕，而又可以紓解你性慾的方法，  If a woman refuses to let you use a condom, refuse to have sex. Yes, it might be hard (ahem) but there are other ways you can relieve your tension without risking an STI or unplanned pregnancy.    擔心你堅持使用衛生套，會惹來壞名聲？只有那些不會互相尊重的女性才會叫你脫掉衛生套。成熟的女性將你的堅持視為寶物——除了安全以來，它亦可以帶來更多的樂趣。  Worried you'll get a reputation if you refuse to have sex without a condom? The only women you'll put off are ones who don't value mutual respect. Secure women will see it as an asset – and they are generally a lot more fun to go out with.    “Try a Mutual Climax condom if she says she doesn't like the way condoms feel.” 

認識身體，愛惜身體  Know Your Body, Love Your Body      愈清楚你的身體，你就愈能獲得更多樂趣。大部份女士都有讓她們的手指探索過自己的身體，但更細緻地了解它能幫助你獲得更大快感。  The better you know your body, the more fun you can have. Most women have let their fingers do the walking but understanding your bits in more detail will help you get a lot more pleasure.    陰阜  The Mons Pubis    亦即恥丘，這是覆蓋著毛髮的部位（或者沒有，視乎個別情況），這也是常被忽略的部位。但是貼緊陰阜不但可以幫助刺激陰蒂，若你輕柔地按壓它，可有助撥開陰蒂包皮暴露出敏感的尖端部位。  Also known as the pubic mound, this is the area that's covered with hair (or not, as the case may be) and it's often neglected. However cupping the mons not only helps stimulate the clitoris but if you press down gently, helps retract the clitoral hood (female equivalent of a foreskin) to expose the sensitive tip.    陰蒂  The Clitoris    女性性快感的中心。陰蒂有密集的神經，受到適當刺激時會膨脹，就像男性的龜頭。不同的女士會有不同的陰蒂大小、形狀和敏感度，所以最好從溫柔的開始。  The centre of female sexual pleasure, the clitoris is dense with nerves and responds to the right kind of stimulation by swelling, much as the shaft of the penis. Women vary in terms of clitoral size, shape and sensitivity, so it's best to approach gently to start with.    如果女士的陰蒂敏感度不強，可嘗試用舌頭或手撥開陰蒂包皮，暴露敏感的陰蒂端會有神奇功效。它露出來以後，動作要輕柔一點 。當它受到刺激之後，一個開始時較不敏感的女士可以有完全不同的反應。  If a woman lacks clitoral sensation, sliding back the clitoral hood using your tongue or hand, to expose the tip can work wonders. Once it's exposed, go lightly though – an initially less responsive woman can react totally differently once the clitoral tip is stimulated.    陰道  The Vagina    通常是性愛的焦點。性興奮的時候陰道會伸縮來容納手指或陰莖。與陰蒂不同的是，陰道並非特別敏感，雖然部份女士能從G點中獲得快感。對部份女士來說，陰道頂的子宮頸也是性敏感帶，但要小心並不是每個人都享受這部位的刺激。  Often the main focus of sex, the vagina is a canal that stretches during arousal to accommodate the fingers or penis. Unlike the clitoris, it is not particularly sensitive, though some women find their G-spot gives them pleasure. The cervix, at the top of the vagina, can also be an erogenous zone for some women – but proceed with caution, as not everyone enjoys stimulation up there.    興奮過程中，陰道會自我潤滑，部份女士則需要額外的潤滑，特別是當伴侶的尺寸較大或性愛活動更激烈的時候。  The vagina self-lubricates during arousal, though some women may need additional lubrication, particularly for a large partner or more rigorous sexual activity.    肌肉張力因人而異，但女士也可以透過收緊盤骨底的肌肉來獲得更佳的性高潮，因為這樣做可以增加這部位的血液流量和肌肉力量。  Muscular tone varies between women but any woman can improve her orgasmic potential by flexing her Kegel muscles, as it increases blood flow to the area as well as muscular strength and control.    市面有多款幫助收緊盤骨底肌肉的訓練器，包括搖晃球、加重椎體、壓力裝置、電脈衝調整器（相似於肌肉鍛練腰帶) 。電脈衝調整器使用輕度（無痛）電流令肌肉運動。如果你有意購買的話，應選擇可信賴的知名品牌。  There are a number of Kegel exercisers available for women, including 'jiggle balls', weighted cones, pressure-based contraptions and electrical pulse based toners (similar to ab-toning belts) which use a mild (painless) electrical current to make the muscles move of their own accord. If you're in the mood to make a purchase then stick to reliable and recognised brands you can trust.    另外，女仕也可選擇做盤骨底肌肉運動。女士可以放一隻手指到陰道中，然後嘗試收縮、放鬆下體肌肉，直至可以壓擠到手指。然後嘗試壓擠手指再數到十。定期練習可保持陰道的鬆緊度。  Alternatively, a woman can do manual Kegel exercising by inserting a finger inside herself then flexing and releasing the muscles down there until she starts to squeeze her finger, then squeezing and holding ten times for a count of ten. Regular Kegel exercises will keep the bits fit.    “Regular Kegel exercises keep the bits fit.” 

簡易的性愛體位  Easy sex positions    不同的性愛體位有不同的效果。與其你每次性愛都是走著相同的軌道，倒不如你進行一點實驗，尋找能夠刺激女性興奮要點的姿勢。這些姿勢全部都很容易做到，及都有其有趣之處。  Different sex positions have different effects. While you could have sex in the same way every time, you're more likely to find what really hits the spot if you experiment a little. These positions are all easy to do and have their own perks.    上升的傳教士  Raised Missionary   傳教士體位就是女性平躺在床上，而男性則伏在女性身上，並雙臂支撐他的身體。上升的傳教士加入了一個簡單的「彎曲」：在女性的臀部底下加上一個睡枕。這樣會改變了男性進入女性的角度，令陰莖更容易接觸G點。這個姿勢亦令陰莖感覺更粗大，但是，如果進行一些深入的體位令女性不舒服，就應該放棄這個姿態；否則，這個姿勢確實可以令你成為完美的男人。  Missionary position is when the woman lies on her back and the man lies on top of her, resting his weight on his arms. Raised missionary adds one simple twist: the woman puts a pillow under her bum. This changes the angle of entry, making it easier for him to hit the G-spot. It will also make a man feel bigger – so best avoided if you find deep sex uncomfortable, but ideal if you want to make the most of a man.    後進式體位  Doggie Style    一些調查得知，它是男性喜愛的性愛體位——女性四肢跪下，男性的雙腿則在女性後面跪下，並從後進入。有些女性認為後進式的姿勢缺少了親密感，因此，在女性前放一塊鏡子，讓她看見他的表情及動作，便可增加親密的感覺。後進式體位可以令男性進入女性更深，及容易刺激到G點；同時，男性亦更容易接觸到女性的乳房及親吻她的頸項。而女性亦可以在這個時刻自我撫摸及使用性玩具。  Often topping surveys as men's favourite sexual positions, the woman kneels on all fours and the man kneels behind her. Some women find doggie a bit impersonal. If so, putting a mirror in front of her so she can look in your eyes can help it feel more intimate. Doggie offers deep penetration and G-spot stimulation. It's also easy for the man to stroke the woman's breasts and kiss her neck; and for the woman to touch herself or use a toy during sex too.    牛女  Cowgirl    第一次性愛的完美體位，牛女的另一個名稱是女上男下——男性躺在床上，女性則分開雙腿坐在男性身上。這個動作可以讓女性來控制一切步伐，即是說她可以做出向前傾的動作，更容易刺激到陰蒂。男性亦可以得到很好的視覺享受，同時亦容易輕鬆地觸碰她的身體。  The perfect first time position, Cowgirl is another name for sex with the man on his back and woman on top, straddling him. This lets her set the pace, and also means she can lean forwards to get easy clitoral stimulation. The man gets a great view, and has easy access to stroke her body all over.